Monday, October 17, 2016

Get over it

Kinda feeling sentimental today.
I think it's mainly because of being nominated by Elle Malaysia for Digital Media Influencer award.
Jane, Ash, Duogigs++ got nominated as well.
So ya, no competition at all cuz they too strong anyway, lol.
I don't know why I'm just feeling a little sentimental.
I've been blogging for quite some time now, been on Instagram for quite some time now.
I'm not a fashionista, I'm not the best writer, I don't do the best make up but
I've always tried to influence people in a good way. Well, at least I think I do, haha.
Ok, maybe not the alcohol part, (but wine is good for health though) 
people who follow me know that I party quite often.
Still, partying doesn't make a person bad, don't judge me like that ok? Lol.
Sometimes, you don't even need alcohol to party.
I like to be the party because I like to make people happy.
I want people to see me and know that I'm the party, that I bring the happiness and fun.

You don't just go to a party and not do anything, then expect it to be fun.

You gotta MAKE it fun.
I don't know why this drifted away to partying, pardon me.

Remember this simple blog post I wrote about
This blog post has hit 100,000views and I don't know how it happened.
It's not like a poetry, good literature or whatever.
It's just a simple, truthful blog post.

I was very heartbroken, two years ago.
It was my darkest time, dark dark dark but I didn't really show it on social media.
It's such a shame to me that I fell into depression two years ago.
I was so depressed for a year and my friends were all so worried about me.
Last Saturday, Jane told me not to fall back into depression again, so much feels.
I think she'll give up on me if I ever fall back again, she probably will.
She put up with all my shit before that, don't know how she did it, haha, Ashley too.
Ahhh, great friends are so important, so crucial, I'm extremely thankful.
Jane, Ashley, Kexin used to take turn to text me everyday.
Short message : "Alive?"
I would say yes. Then, they constantly checked if I was alive for quite a long time.
Yeh, I was in a bad shape last time, looking back at it, it's damn funny.
They are very protective now because they don't want me to ever fall back into depression.
They make fun of me sometimes about having depression last time cuz I'm all fine now.
In the blog post, I wrote that the only solution is time and the key is acceptance. 
I think that's the most amazing I've written over the years, hahahaha!
I just want to tell you that the only solution is definitely TIME.
I never thought I could get over that matter but I did, I got over it.
You will get over it too, I know you don't feel like you can get over it now but you will.

Two years have passed, something strange happened again.
The pain I felt 2 years ago, it is all gone.
It is all gone.
I have been feeling so amazing lately.
Cause. The excruciating pain I felt 2 years ago is all gone.
I laugh about it now, there's nothing on my shoulder anymore.
I know I'm scarred but it healed, maybe the scar left a mark but maybe not, it healed.
It feels so good that it doesn't affect me anymore.
There's no hate for that person, no hate for that matter anymore.
There's no sadness, no more, it's gone.

I don't know how to convince you that it'll all be fine cuz
I can't really tell the stories, they are people's privacy as well, I can't lay them all out on the table.
I guess I just want to share my happiness for feeling alive again.
 It's wonderful to feel this way, it's fantastic.

Life isn't going to go perfectly smooth after this.
I know.
But, keep telling yourself that TIME is the solution.
Be patient.
At least now I know, whatever sadness I feel now, a year later, it won't matter.

 Get over it.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Music Talk : Manchester Music Trip

Finally have the time to start editing pictures.
I'm going to blog about my first day in the UK.
First stop was Manchester.
Good thing about travelling long distance alone is that 
I get to think a lot and reflect on life, I also get inspired most of the time.
What's more amazing about this trip? I get to do something that I'm so passionate about.
It was a music trip, UK music trip, what a dream came true.
 I don't want to stop exploring British music in Great Britain.
Downside about travelling alone is that my photographer friends aren't around to
help take nice shots of me, haha!
Wait. Who's complaining? Certainly not, haha.
First thing first, shoutout to team @LoveGreatBritain for such an interesting itinerary.
It made my trip so easy, I didn't have to worry about planning my own itinerary.
For those who want to go on a music trip in UK, I hope my blog posts can do you some help.

I travelled with Qatar airways this time, it was a pleasant flight.
 It's not as expensive as before to get to England anymore.
Malaysia Airlines has been doing promo offering super low fares to get to England.
I flew with Etihad the last time, got stranded in Abu Dhabi on the way back.
Not a very pleasant experience but it's okay.
I want to try Emirates the next time because I'm definitely going back!
I'm planning to see Sam Smith, Adele live, soon, one day, one day...

Anyway, I transited in Doha, it was my first time being in Doha.
It's a dope airport, artistic, modern and elegant.
The art pieces will make you stop and stare.
Took some shots in black and white using Huawei P9.
Compact, convenient, brilliant shots, I didn't have to carry my camera around.

I don't know about this massive teddy bear but it sure is a famous one.
Apparently, it's an art piece that belongs to Qatar royal family.

Moving on.
So many of you sent me messages and emails asking about getting through immigration.
I replied a few and I got lazy, so I'll just blog it out.
Some asked if I had to show proof of income to get into UK border.
( ps : you guys should really watch a programme called UK Border Force.
It's interesting and you'll learn about what to bring and what not to bring,
what to do and what not to do when you travel to the UK. )
Anyway, it's pretty subjective, depending on the immigration officers.

I haven't had to show proof of income so far.
The first time I went, I met quite a scary immigration officer.
She was grumpy, she asked me what was I going to do in London.
I said I was going to watch Coldplay and James Bay.
Then, she told me to show her my return flight.
So I showed her the confirmation email, she went all crazy on me.
She said she couldn't see it on my phone, why didn't I print it out.
I was thinking uhm? to save paper? everything runs paperless now?
Nah, I didn't say that, I just told her that I didn't get it printed because it's all in my phone.
She said she can't see it, she can't help me.
I just looked at her blankly, thinking waddhaya want from me, lol.
She was pissed at me and yelled out to a young male officer.
The male officer came to my rescue.
"Oh yeah, it's stated here that she's going back seven days later."
He tried to make small talk to soothe my mood because I was standing there, stunned, lol.
That's why it's subjective, maybe the immigration lady was having a bad day. Period.

This time I landed in Manchester.
The immigration officer I met was chill, friendly.
He was like so whatchu going to do here.
I just told him about the itinerary and where am I going to stay.

They will only ask you simple questions.
If you're not guilty, you have nothing to worry about.
Simple as that.

So, 1. no, I didn't have to show proof of income.
2. yes, they ask questions.
3. make sure you know what you're doing, where you're going to make the process easier.
You'll be fine.

It was afternoon when I arrived in Manchester.
I was knackered after an eight-hour flight to Doha, waited three hours in the airport,
then flew another seven hours to Manchester.
Jet lag was definitely kicking in, I normally take two days to recover, lol.
I checked in to Radisson Blu Edwardian, housed within the former Lesser Free Trade Hall.
I went for a walk before dinner.

Manchester is a city that generated, still generates world renowned bands and artistes.
Manchester has dictated trends in music history throughout decades.
Heard of Madchester genre? Some of you probably did but
I recently just learnt about this genre, guess it's not too late.
There are plenty of iconic landmarks and venues for you to visit here to
get the closest experience to your favourite band's history.

Such magnificent view from the hotel, Radisson Blu Edwardian.

I think I have a thing for pretty bathrooms.

It was time to meet the rest of my tour mates over dinner at Opus One.
Opus One restaurant serves innovative modern British food.
It's perfect for the first night as it's located in the hotel.
Its high ceilings make the space look dramatically theatrical.
Guess what? Hallé Berry once had cocktails at the Opus One Bar.

Here we learnt about history of the Free Trade Hall, the hotel.

The dinner was so unforgettable because I met music experts from all around the world.
China, Japan, Brazil, Spain, Turkey, South Africa, Australia, Canada, The States.
Most of them are older, hence their rich experience.
They've been writing about music for a long time.
I told them that I want to grow up to be like them, I want to know everything about British music.
They know every single thing about everything, everything.
They know about every song, every album, every historical gig.
I want to share about the music I love to the younger generations like this, in the future.
 I want to be able to answer all their questions, just like how they answered mine.
They told me stories about how they splurged on vinyls, how crazy they went on collecting albums.
30 years from now, I want to share about Ed Sheeran, James Bay, Coldplay, Ellie Goulding,
Kodaline, Arctic Monkeys +++ to the younger generations.

All pumped for the next day.
We went on a Manchester Music Tour with Craig Gill of the Inspiral Carpets.
If you're interested :
We got to experience all the sights and sounds from the city that inspired
all of these great musicians, walk in their footsteps and
hear first-hand how Manchester has produced plenty of superstars.
To be very honest, I'm not familiar about 70s 80s British music because I wasn't born, haha.
Not too bad at 90s British music, thanks to my dad for being such a good influence.
He used to play guitar for his school band.
He listens to a lot of Scorpions, The Beatles, ABBA, Rolling Stones, The Carpenters +

Back to Craig Gill, he was famous in the 80s, he is the drummer for the band Inspiral Carpets.
I checked their music out before I went on the tour with him.
To me, their music is alternative rock with lotsa distorted guitars.
Their music is also categorized as Madchester genre, that's how I learnt about this genre.
Then, I listened to The Smiths too, I thought I wasn't familiar with them.
They all told me "don't worry, you must've heard their songs before, you just don't know it's them."
When they played "There's A Light That Never Goes Out" and my sudden realization...
 Their music is categorized as alternative rock and indie pop.
Listen to the indie pop nowadays, it has evolved.
What's a band that makes good indie pop now? Do share it with me if you know any.
I think it's the influence from American music, everyone makes pop music now.
I thought Coldplay's music was indie pop + alternative rock but listen to their music now,
it's super pop, not much of the INDIE pop/Britpop touch anymore.
The older bands make a stronger and a distinct style of music.
In my opinion, they made better indie pop/Britpop but who am I to judge? Haha.
 Still, after listening to the older bands, I'm better at differentiating genres.
Oasis is actually Britpop + rock, I used to think that they're indie rock.
You know what indie rock nowadays? Arctic Monkeys.
Arctic Monkeys, they make distinguishable, distinct, defined style of music.
Check them out if you haven't.

Went a little over the top.
Back to Craig, he is super down-to-Earth.
That's the thing about musicians who genuinely love music.
Imagine the drummer from The 1975 hosts a music tour 30 years later, that'll be so cool.
All they want to do is share about music.

What's Free Trade Hall?
It was Manchester's premier concert hall until the opening of Bridgewater hall.
Now the Radisson Blu Edwardian hotel.
It was the venue for the 1966 “Electric Bob Dylan” controversy and
the infamous audience heckle of “Judas!”.
The Sex Pistols also played here to an audience including future members of the Buzzcocks,
Joy Division, The Fall, Simply Red and The Smiths.
These histories turned 40, 50 years.
It's a significant year for musical anniversaries in Manchester.

Autographs of famous artistes, framed and set on the walls in the hotel.

It seems like things have changed but some things remain.
Famous photographs taken at the same place but different years.

Another famous landmark, the bridge where Joy Division shot their album cover.

My attempt, close enough.

Our tour bus, lookin' rad.

Oasis used to jam here at The Broadwalk.
They used to rehearse and play gigs here.

A gig used to cost 2 STERLING POUNDS.
Can we turn back time?

Vibrant streets in the city centre of Manchester.
Filled with musical history everywhere.
Must visit Manchester’s Northern Quarter – including Afflecks Palace.
A famous spot for clothes shopping during the ‘madchester’ era.

Next to Afflecks is Piccadilly Records.
Heard so much about this record store.
Piccadilly Records prospered in the post-punk 80s,
selling a mixture of rock, pop, indie and alternative music.
They keep the reputation as one of the world's best independent record shops.

Look at the labels and descriptions they did to the albums, it's amazing.

 My tour mates lost themselves here, hahaha.

Last stop was Salford Lads Club, a remarkable club.
The founding aims of the club were to eep kids off the streets,
encourage them to play sports, do art and get education.
It has kept to its roots since 1903.
Lotsa big names donated to this club to keep its doors opened.
More than 200 youngsters continue to use the building every week and volunteers
continue their contributions to the club.

My favourite is this room, I think they call it the "The Smiths" room.

Spot Cara Delevigne in pink-peach jacket.

Check this Wall of Names.
Super super super cool.
It contains the names of 22000 members of Salford Lads Clun from 1903 to 2015.

Side note:

I took some time off to get to Old Trafford Stadium.
Yep, one of my dreams came true.
I always wanted to step foot on Old Trafford, I made it.
I didn't have time to do the stadium tour but at least, I was there.

Bad pictures, but still in front of the stadium, haha!

Thanks to Annabelle for this shot.

Manchester trip was a little too short.
I feel like I could've explored more with more time.
We then headed off to Wales for Festival Number 6.

How do I end this post now?
Self shot OOTD picture, lol.
Bye for now.

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Happy Merdeka!

The first thing is to apologize for not updating.
Hope you guys are still reading.
I think I'm going to get a proper notebook because
my Mac is dying and it's too heavy to carry around, super inconvenient.
I'm at the airport, waiting to board, I'm going to Manchester, everybody.
Making all my dreams come true, ticking off things to do on my bucket list.

Today is Merdeka Day.
Happy birthday, Malaysia.
I love you, I love you for the people...but not some retards though.
Excuse me on this but some people are really retarded, I can't (especially those who make racist slurs)
I read news and I normally skip retarded parts like these.
We can live harmoniously and some people hate harmony so much that they want to spoil it.

Well, can't deny that the crime rate in Malaysia is on the rise, 
the citizens often feel helpless and insecure.
It's the insecurity, the insecurity that breaks everything apart.
The insecurity that breaks trust among people.
We don't trust each other, we care, we worry so much about ourselves.
For example, I saw a car breaking down by the road.
I really wanted to get down to help but I didn't have the courage to get out of the car.
I was worried that I would get robbed.
Even if I was the one who have my car broken down and someone tried to help,
I would be skeptical too. 
That dilemma though...
Malaysians. Insecure Malaysians.

Perhaps, we are waiting for a hero.
I don't know.
Everyone, do good in your life, do good for your country.
Remember, don't litter.
This is really something I want to mention.
Malaysians like to litter.
Learn from the Japanese, find a bin or take it with you first, chuck it afterwards.

The patriotism spirit is roaring loud lately.
After the olympics and it's our independence day.
To be honest, thank Dato Lee Chong Wei for this.
He made a name for Malaysia and he's a progressive that
stimulated the growth and drastic improvement of the badminton scene in Malaysia.
We've gotten two more silver medals now.
They were all so close, so so so close.
I can talk badminton all day but maybe not today, haha.

I often strike up conversations with elderly.
I don't know why.
Maybe I'm always doing things alone and travelling alone.
I never had a hot guy who sat next to me on the plane, ahaha.
I hope I get one on my flight tonight, hahaha, or maybe I get a crying baby, haha.
My flight from Aussie back to Malaysia, I met an Aussie man, he told me his story.
I blogged about it long time ago.
My flight to Manila, I met a lady who works as a helped in Malaysia.
I blogged about it too but I linked it up with an advertisement.
A lot of people thought I made the story up but nope.
My ads are genuine too, that one was Acer ad,
I really needed a notebook, you see I still want one now, lol.
 My flight to London, I met a British man who has a handicapped daughter.
My flight to Sydney, I met a China lady who doesn't speak English.
Bla bla bla+++

That night I was alone again.
Jane asked me to have dinner together, I didn't want to thirdwheel and I wanted to watch
LCW vs Lin Dan.
So, I was alone, streaming the match on my phone at KLCC.
I had no one to share my excitement with when LCW won the match.
I just jumped off my seat and the whole KLCC cheered for the win.
 There were two Malay men who sat next to me.
They asked me who won.
I screamed LCW BEAT LIN DAN!!!!! 

Then, we started talking, talking, talking.
Syed and Tengku, I remember the names.
Syed was the more talkative one.
We talked about coffee, talked about Malaysia, talked about Paris.
He talked about his daughter who is 24, she works for Petronas and she's getting married.
I'm just like sitting there, "hello".
24, am still not getting my shit together, haha.
He kept saying that he's a Malaysian spy.
I don't think so, I think he's a writer, like me but a professional one, a columnist maybe.
I like to call myself a writer, hahaha but I didn't share about my blog.
I don't want him to be reading my blog and thinking
what are youngsters doing nowadays, writing all these bullshit.
Now you see, I'm actually doing something quite amazing.

We talked for two hours?
Syed told me that he never thought that he could converse with a 24-year-old.
His daughter is 24 but he said he never talked to a 24-year-old like that before.
I want to share more about what we talked about but I don't think I should, haha!
It was a great experience.
We just shook hands and let each other know that it was such a pleasure talking to a stranger, lol.

I got to go now, got a plane to catch.



Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Jay Chou The Invincible Concert Tour 2016

Been contemplating if I should write this post in English or Chinese, lol.
I think I can express better in English because I've been writing in English but...
what if Jay Chou wants to read my blog? Lol, joking.
I'll just go with the flow and give you the annoying English+Chinese posting.

我放学回家都关在房间听歌 在周杰伦之前我是超爱westlife的 哈哈
在我 8 岁的时候 我舅舅复制了周杰伦的第一张专辑给我
我才 8 岁哦 那时候是他刚发行 "jay" 同名专辑
听起来有点变态 可是我 8 岁就很想嫁给他
我的个人电邮地址非常老土-daphnejay 我超疯周杰伦 什么都是 jay jay jay
至今不后悔 我的私人电邮地址用了13年没换过 还是daphnejay 

 我还很后悔这次没买rm800 vvip1 的票
我看过很多演唱会 我为音乐而活, lol 西方东方音乐我都喜欢
近几年来多数是西方音乐 因为周杰伦真的是华语乐坛地表最强
除了他 好像都没什么好看的 好听的 lol lol 
我最近看过难忘的是陈奕迅 想看蔡依林的 但是人不在国内
我以前也是蔡依林的铁粉 72变 舞娘 唱的跳的 我也可以现场来一段 哈哈
以后别做朋友 你 好不好 我都很喜欢 

I really like artistes who can write songs themselves.
That's how you know an artiste.
When he/she writes a melody, you feel it.
When he/she writes a piece of lyrics, you understand that feeling you feel through the melody.
That's why I love Jay Chou, he participates in every single song.
I can't explain why I even love a man so much when he doesn't even know my existence.
So many unforgettable and classic songs from him, too many.
I don't know how and who is going to take over the next decades in the Chinese music scene.
Jay Chou's in, he's IN for almost two decades now, greatest so far.
I want my future kids or nephew to have an idol like this, someone so legendary.
I don't know how and who is going to beat him on this.
It makes me wonder if Jacky Cheung, Andy Lau were this influential in their days.
You hardly find artistes who write every single of their song.
Do LeeHom and Mayday write all their songs? I think Mayday does right?
Ok, Ed Sheeran actually does write all his songs.
Maybe that's why I like Ed Sheeran so much too.
I like the self-writing, self-producing, self-composing, creative type of artistes.
To be honest, I really can't find anyone who is more impressive than Jay Chou.
I'm looking forward to more of Eric Chou's music.
Eric Chou is good, his songs are good and touching but it's lacking something.
It's lacking a personal taste, a personal touch, a distinct style.
There's no style in his music whereas Jay Chou's style is so special, so unique, it's irreplaceable.
We call it the J style - J式风格
It's so strong, you hear a song with the J style, you know it's Jay Chou.
Eric Chou is 21 now and Jay Chou debuted when he was 21 too.
 Look at both debuts.
Jay Chou's debut was wayyyyyy more impressive than not only Eric Chou but everyone else.
Still, I think Eric Chou's up and coming for the future generations.
I hope he has it in him.
Any new Mandopop artistes that are impressive nowadays? Do recommend to me.

So, I parked my car at The Gardens and I took Grabcar to Stadium Merdeka for the concert.
The driver was chatty, I told him that I was going to see a Taiwanese popstar.
He's indian, I asked if he knows Jay Chou.
Surprised or not surprised, he knows who Jay Chou is.
He said he didn't know he's that famous.
The roads were congested, the sidewalks were flooded with fans.
He asked me about Jay Chou's date of birth.
I told him he's a Capricorn, born in the year of horse.
He said "ahhhhhhhh, no wonder, he has the creativity!"
Yeh? At that moment, I decided to have a kid at the year of horse, a capricorn too, lol lol lol.
He asked why do I love Jay Chou?
I said he writes his music and he makes his music.
He's very famous among the Chinese community because his songs are like anthems.
He plays the piano, the guitar, the drums, the cello, flute+++
He raps, he beatboxs, he acts...

Why spend so much for Jay Chou?
Because he's legendary like that.

I have to say that the organizers for this tour sucked so bad.
They are inconsiderate and unprofessional.
I think the organizers are similar to the previous tour but they did it so bad this time.
They know that the fans will suck it up, will do everything for Jay Chou.
Take it for granted because it's Jay Chou.
Jay Chou's reputation is Jay Chou's reputation, your rep is your rep.

There was only one entrance and one exit for the VIPs.
I'm not sure about the general entry because it's another entrance very far away.
I think they too only have an entrance and an exit.
I doubt there's even a fire exit or an emergency exit if anything bad happens.
*touch wood*
We had to walk a narrow flight of stairs to get out without any directions or assistance.
Everyone was stuck in a constricted space.
What if a fire happens? What if?
*touch wood x2*
I don't mind the walking, I know there were renovation and constructions happening around us
but at least make a clear path for us to enter and exit.

Why spend so much for Jay Chou's concert?
He puts in the work and he spends a lot of money on his performance.
What do I mean by spending a lot of money on his performance?
Every singer does too?
Jay Chou's likes everything glam, his concerts have been glamorous.
Production cost is always high with all the special stage effects.
From an artiste who only sang and played piano on stage, he didn't use to dance.
Jay Chou was that type, The Ed Sheeran, John Legend type.
Ed Sheeran played three Wembley shows, 150,000 people altogether?
He played solo, he has got a stage with LED screens behind.
No fancy lights, no fancy costumes, no dancers, nothing fancy.
I watched Coldplay at Wembley too.
Same thing, nothing fancy, no fancy costumes, maybe a little bit of fancy lights, yes.

From an artiste who only sang and played piano on stage.
Jay Chou became more, he dances, he's a stage entertainer now, he's always striving for more.
He has dancers, dancers need practice, need costumes.
He has the crazy lights and firework.
He got the massive LCDs with crazy visual effects.
Astronaut? Stunt performer? Yes.
Fancy and special costumes? Say 7 outfits throughout the show? Cool.
What about a realistic aquarium? Sure.
Classical piano? Let's modify the piano. One? No, two please.
What about interacting with audiences? Ok.
A band with backup vocalist, nah not enough, let's throw in different mouthpieces? Doable.
Let's say I bring a circus to the stage? Why not?

These are costs.
The cost is so high, hence the ticket is expensive.
You get to pick what KIND OF performance you want to watch.
If Jay Chou plays Albert Hall with just a piano, I'll still pay big bucks for it.
When you like it, you just like it and you do it because trust me, it'll be worth it.
Adele, she only sings, I don't think she even performs with a piano.
Her ticket price is sky high but everyone is die to go, including me.
Then, we have Beyonce, sky high ticket price, I die to go too.
She's a stage performer, the best entertainer in the world for now.
I too don't know how and who is going take over Beyonce's success the next decades.
Her costumes are specially made for her, her dancers are trained and dressed well.
Balmain, Gucci, Givenchy, everything fly+++

What I'm saying here is that Jay Chou puts in a lot of effort for his tour.
I'm not saying that others who don't do the "fancy" stuff do not put in the effort.
It's not about the quality of the artistes that I'm comparing.
It's the cost that I'm comparing.

I always think that Western artistes make more money than Asians, haha.
I wonder about Lady Gaga, Katy Perry and Beyonce though because their tours are so fancy.
Uhm, but I'm sure they still make big bucks, don't you worry, haha.

I was only 10/12 when I went to my first Jay Chou concert.
I was a stingy child.
I saved every penny, I was rich at my age but I never spent on anything else but Jay Chou.
Jay Chou's music albums, dvds, merchandises including cup noodles with his face on, lol.

10+years ago, Jay Chou's VIP concert ticket only sold at RM300.
Jay Chou VVIP tickets cost RM800 now and it went up to RM1000 last two tours.
My friend, Jacqueline is also a huge fan of Jay Chou.
I convinced her to skip VVIP1 this time because we have watched his concert so many times.
I feel so sorry because we might have had the chance to interact with Jay Chou if
we were to sit at VVIP1 zone.
Sorry, Jacqueline, haha!

Oh ya, I hope this boy and this girl who waved at me read this.
They were waving at me for a good 5 seconds.
I was looking at their direction but I was totally spaced out.
So, I'm afraid that they might think I'm arrogant.
Sorry, I was super spaced out and I waved back after like 10 seconds
but I don't know if you two saw it.
Come closer next time, I'm very friendly, haha.
Some readers came to take picture with me, I didn't speak much
because I didn't know what to say, super awkward, but thank you for all your kind words.
You all made me feel like a mini Jay Chou that day, haha!
I hope you all enjoyed the show as much as I did.

The fans who got to sing with Jay Chou were so so so lucky.
I think I'd die if I had a chance to sing with him.
If I were to pick a song to sing with him at that time.
I'd do "瓦解", a song he originally wrote for Nan Quan Mama.
Jay Chou was considered an indie artiste until he got so famous and his music became more "pop".
To me, he introduced rap to the Chinese music scene.
A lot of people couldn't accept his style of music 10+years ago.
I love rapping, I used to rap to Linkin Park and Eminem.
Rap was more a Western thing, you know.
Jay Chou made me and taught me to rap in Mandarin.
Surprisingly, I can rap to so many of his songs.
That's how you learn Chinese too, you sing to Jay Chou.

Don't you wish you could turn back time and keep Jay Chou in a pocket?
Lol, why do I wanna keep everyone in the pocket? Haha.
2000s was such a good era to live in.
I want to go back to my teens and relive such a fantastic teen years.

Shoot, Jay Chou always makes you feel this way.

As expected, I've been playing Jay Chou all day all night after the concert.
Made some short song covers for Facebook and Instagram, haha.

如果要我选一张最喜欢的专辑 我选不到
我大爱周杰伦同名专辑, 八度空间, 别说了, 最后的战役mv+制作幕后花絮 我看了上百次吧
叶惠美 以父之名的我也看上千次
比如 威廉古堡 对不起 印第安老斑鸠 (真的很惊讶他唱了这首)
这歌没有爆红 但是风味独特 格调一流
很多很好听的 超粉也应该很爱
你有 借口 搁浅 爱在西元前 龙卷风 黑色毛衣 明明就 算什么男人 爱情废材等
你可知道 有更多更好听的 如
分裂 上海一九四三 爱情悬崖+++

I don't know who's going to top him in the future.
真的不懂 也想不到有谁在未来可以和他一样强
我知道 J式音乐 周杰伦 是无法被取代
但是人会老 我们会老 新一代的人 下一代的人 会有个像我们那么厉害的偶像吗
He set the bar too high!

超喜欢"半岛铁盒"的编曲,歌词,转音假音全部on point.
最后的chorus"铁盒的序"的停顿是我最爱的部分, 死要唱那个部分就是了.
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Wednesday, July 27, 2016

My attempt at auntyhood

I want to talk about aunthood today.
Ok, I like the word "auntyhood" better.
I think people should give more credits to aunties and uncles.
I'm close to my nephew, I feel like I actually parent my nephew, lol.
My second sister probably does better at auntyhood but I ain't sharing my credits because
I live with my nephew and I have to see him everyday and get shit from him everyday.
I was asking my manager about how things are going.
She said "nothing much, most clients are looking for mummy bloggers, you're not a parent."
Excuse me? I'm not a mum but I'm an aunt and I parent, lol.
I can write the best review about pampers because I wear them for my nephew all the time, lol.
I can write review about milk powder because I make him milk at night too.
I'm not in a place where I can give advises but I can probably give you some ideas, haha.
Needless to say that being an aunty gives you the closest experience to being a real mum.
Man, it's hard, having a child is hard.
I love kids, I always love kids.
After having to "parent" my nephew, I'm not as eager as before to have my own kid, lol.
If my future husband wants a kid, we'll have a kid, if he doesn't, well, I've got my nephew, haha.
Wait, that's until I actually find someone to be married.

 My mum used to babysit.
She's a housewife, we never had a boy in our family before my nephew.
I think my mum secretly wants a boy.
Well, mum, I'm here, this is the closest you can get since I act like a boy anyway.
As I mentioned in my previous post.
My parents used to dress me in NY/Nike caps, tees, Timberland sandals.
Lotsa lotsa Nike, Adidas and Reebok sneakers, not to forget the Harley Davidson tees.
Oh ya, Manchester United full set outfit too.
Hold up, I'm SURE my parents wanted a boy, lol.
I looked ugly as shit when I was small, not that I'm pretty now but I've grown to be more feminine.
Everyone had pretty baby pictures, trust me, I have none.
I still give my mum a lot of shit on how she used to dress me.
When I was about 13, we started babysitting a baby boy.
His name is Vincent, my long-time readers will know who he is.
He lived his toddler-life fabulously because we spoiled him like a part of our family.
My mum shops for him and she spends more on him than us, lol.
It's just fate though, he clicks so well with my mum.
He still calls my mum once in a while now, he also comes to stay over during his holidays.
My mum loves him, so much that I'm a little jealous.

After Vincent, we too babysat his brother, Jason.
After Jason, we got a baby girl, Arienne.
3 of them are the sweetest kids in the world.
I love the boys but I gotta say that I spoil Arienne the most.
Just cause she's a baby girl and I always wanted a younger sister but I don't get one.
She's the most well-behaved girl I've ever seen in my life.
She's the sweetest, smartest and she speaks with an accent, lol.
Her parents put a lot of work in educating her, so did my mum.
My mum is not good at English but she tried very hard.

Vincent is the most thoughtful one.
He would text my mum and tell her to drink more water because the weather is bad.
Don't you just go "awwwwwwwww"?
He stays over during the Chinese New Year holiday.
My mum brings him everywhere.
As usual, this year, he collected red packets and he offered to give them all to my mum because
she spent a lot bringing him around/have nice food/shopping.
Double awwwwwwwwww.

Wait, I'm supposed to talk about my nephew right? Lol.
My nephew's name is Waynn. (so fancy, can't it just be Wayne?)
Apparently it's Spanish spelling of Wayne, I was like hola you spanish? como estas?
I cannot understand why parents give their kids fancy names.
To me, names are supposed to be meaningful or... at least traditional.
It's your kid though, I'm in no place to comment about baby names,
I should shut up before getting hate.
Maybe my grandparents should've named me DAPHENEY, fancy.

He's 4, he's one smart ass, I'd say.
People who follow me on my Snapchat would know how I adore him and how smart he is.
I'm so proud of that, he really is very smart for his age.
He started going to kindergarten at 3, maybe he's just faster.
He's smart, that's why he's cheeky and cunning.
Kids nowadays are like that.
They're too smart, they outsmart you sometimes.
I don't know why my mother always gets his hair done like this,
I hate it but my mum is the first in command, I get no say!

Never let them outsmart you.
Use reverse psychology, it always works for me.
Waynn has mountains of toys.
Yes, mountains.
He loves cars, he can name cars on the road from Honda to Ferrari, even Bugatti (well if we see one).
He has about 200 toy cars, yeh, I'm confident, 200 is the number.
From racing cars to rubbish trucks to big trucks to excavators to concrete mixers, LOL.
He never keeps his toys after he plays with them.
It's like a mission impossible to get him to clean up after himself.
The word "magic" always helps.
I've been using the "magic" scheme to get him to do things lately.
I cover my eyes with my hands and I tell him that I'm going to count to a hundred.
When I'm done counting, he has to do "magic" to get the space cleaned up by keeping his toys.
It works, so far, for a week lah, I think he's going to find out soon that I'm just messing with him.
It's fun trying to outsmart each other, I get to exercize my brain.

Teach him using examples and scenarios happen in real life.
The words won't get into their head unless you show them.
You don't just tell them, you show them.
He doesn't take care of his toys.
He has scratches all over his toys, paint coming off, wheels are detached.
I know, everyone tells me to let him be a boy because boys play rough. 
Stop right there, small problem like this will be a part of his character when he grows up.
My mum and I tried so hard to educate him to take care of his belongings.

He loves it when I play with him.
Kids love it, kids love attention, plus he's the only son.
The only boy in the family, that explains how spoiled he is.
We started arranging the toy cars and talking to the toy cars. 
My nephew enjoyed it so much and telling me about every toy car about its colour, its brand++
Then, I told Waynn to look at the conditions of the cars.
I started snapping pictures and I said
"Look, they don't look good on pictures because the paint came off.
You didn't take good care of the toy cars. +++"
Never baby talk them, tell them the real thing.
He nodded and started putting them gently in the box.
The DHL truck though... lol...

Talk about not to baby talk them.
So here is my attempt at talking to Waynn like an adult.
He did something bad and I tried to lecture him.
"Waynn, come over here, 三姨(aunt, me) wants to talk to you."
I squated down to be at the same level and looked him in the eyes.
This is what I read from parenting guide, lol.
Speak to them like an adult, eyes meet eyes at the same level so the kid feels respected.
"Waynn, you got a brain right?"
Felt like he just shot me down, nevermind, bye.
At least, I tried, lol lol lol.
 It isn't easy, it really isn't, haha!

Sometimes we accidentally spoil him and we don't even know that.
I'm the strict aunt, I'm not soft but I'm not the whoop-ass type because he's not my child, haha.
So, everyone got him toys for Christmas.
I insisted that I won't buy toys for Christmas.
I brought him to the mall, I decided to get him colour pencils.
Like fancy 36/48 colour pencils ( I really wanted them when I was little, lol )
We picked out the colour pencils, then he went to the Tomica section.
He stared at the Tomica model cars, HARD, he stared hard.
I said no, he kept staring.
I ended up buying him one. Just one. It's not too bad but yeh.
Be very careful on this, don't accidentally spoil them.
I always try to stop my parents, his grandparents from buying him toys.

He really is a sweetheart, he melts my heart all the time but at the same time,
he's a manipulative devil that hurts my feelings so much, lol.
I love it when he knocks on the door and asks if he could come in
because he wants to hug me good night.

There is also moment like this.
 He wanted to stay close to me while drinking milk.
So, he carried his blanket to the couch, he put his legs on my lap.
He pretended too fall asleep because he didn't want to brush his teeth, haha.

He said he wants to buy a BMW racing car, particularly a green one.
He will fetch me everywhere.
I uploaded this on Snapchat, I think some of you might have seen it, haha.
Sometimes, I look at him and I hope that when he grows up, he will still love me.
I look at him, I feel like crying sometimes because he's beautiful.
I wonder how will I feel when he goes through his first exam.
How will I feel if he gets detention in school.
How will I feel if he gets into trouble.
How will I feel when he starts driving.
How will I feel when he has a girlfriend.
I look at him and I hope he still loves me after all.
I wonder how will it be, I already have crazy hopes and dreams for him.
Above all that, it's worry. I start worrying for things that are going to come.
I cannot imagine having my own child.
The responsibility is no joke.
It's a child, it's a life, it's a human.

I don't know why I feel like talking about aunthood today.
I think aunties and uncles who are close to their nieces and nephews will understand.
Do share some tips on auntyhood with me.
I'm trying here.
He really is a brat sometimes but I have hopes and dreams for him to grow up well.
I'm proud of him already, I don't know how proud can I get in the future.
 Be good, Waynn.