Wednesday, July 27, 2016

My attempt at auntyhood





I want to talk about aunthood today.
Ok, I like the word "auntyhood" better.
I think people should give more credits to aunties and uncles.
I'm close to my nephew, I feel like I parent my nephew, lol.
My second sister probably does better at auntyhood but I aint sharing my credits because
I live with my nephew and I have to see him everyday and get shit from him everyday.
I was asking my manager about how are things going.
She said nothing much, most clients are looking for mummy bloggers, you're not a parent.
I was like hello? I'm not a mum but I'm an aunt and I parent, lol.
I can write the best review about pampers because I wear them for my nephew all the time, lol.
I'm not in a place where I can give advises but I can probably give you some ideas, haha.
Needless to say that being aunty gives you the closest experience to being a real mum.
Man, it's hard, having a child is hard.
I love kids, I always love kids.
After having to "parent" my nephew, I'm not as eager as before to have my own kid, lol.
If my future husband wants a kid, I'll have a kid, if he doesn't, well, I've got my nephew, haha.
Wait, that's until I actually get to find someone to be married.
 My mum used to babysit.
She's a housewife, we never had a boy in our family.
I think my mum secretly wants a boy.
Well, mum, I'm here, this is the closest you can get since I act like a boy anyway.
As I mentioned in my previous post.
My parents used to dress me in NY/Nike caps, tees, Timberland sandals.
Lotsa lotsa Nike, Adidas and Reebok sneakers, not to forget the Harley Davidson tees.
Oh ya, Manchester United full set outfit too.
Ok, I'm sure my parents wanted a boy, lol.
I looked ugly as shit when I was small, not that I'm pretty now but I've grown to be more feminine.
Everyone had pretty baby pictures, trust me, I have none.
I still give my mum a lot of shit now on how she used to dress me.
When I was about 13, we started babysitting a baby boy.
His name is Vincent, my long-time readers will know who he is.
He lived his toddler-life fabulously because we spoiled him like a part of our family.
My mum shops for him and she spends more on him than us, lol.
It's just fate though, he still calls my mum once in a while now.
He also comes to stay over during his holidays.
My mum loves him, so much that I'm a little jealous.

After Vincent, we too babysat his brother, Jason.
After Jason, we got a baby girl, Arienne.
3 of them are the sweetest kids in the world.
I love the boys but I gotta say that I spoil Arienne the most.
Just cause she's a baby girl and I always wanted a younger sister but I don't get one.
She's the most well-behaved girl I've ever seen in my life.
She's the sweetest, smartest and she speaks with an accent, lol.
Her parents put a lot of work in educating her, so did my mum.
My mum is not good at English but she tried very hard.
 Arienne calls my mum "嬷嬷", it means grandma, I like to hear her calling my mum that.
Such a pleasure to my ears, I don't know why, it's just cute.
Vincent is the most thoughtful one.
He would text my mum and tell her to drink more water because the weather is bad.
Don't you just go "awwwwwwwww"?
He stays over during the Chinese New Year holiday.
My mum brings him everywhere.
As usual, this year, he collected red packets and he offered to give them all to my mum because
she spent a lot bringing him around/have nice food/shopping.
Double awwwwwwwwww.

Wait, I'm supposed to talk about my nephew right? Lol.
My nephew's name is Waynn. (so fancy, can't it just be Wayne?)
Apparently it's Spanish spelling of Wayne, I was like hola you spanish? como estas?
I cannot understand why parents give their kids fancy names.
To me, names are supposed to be meaningful or... at least traditional.
It's your kid though, I'm in no place to comment about baby names,
I should shut up before getting hate.
Maybe my grandparents should've named me DAPHENEY, fancy.



He's 4, he's one smart ass, I'd say.
People who follow me on my Snapchat will know how I adore him and how smart he is.
I'm so proud of that, he really is very smart for his age.
He started going to kindergarten at 3, maybe he's just faster.
He's smart, that's why he's cheeky and cunning.
Kids nowadays are like that.
They're too smart, they outsmart you sometimes.
I don't know why my mother always gets his hair done like this,
I hate it but my mum is the first in command, I get no say!



Never let them outsmart you.
Use reverse psychology, it always works for me.
Waynn has mountains of toys.
Yes, mountains.
He loves cars, he can name cars on the road from Honda to Ferrari, even Bugatti (well if we see one).
He has about 200 toy cars, yeh, I'm confident, 200 is the number.
From racing cars to rubbish trucks to big trucks to excavators to concrete mixers, LOL.
He never keeps his toys after he plays with them.
It's like a mission impossible to get him to clean up after himself.
The word "magic" always helps.
I've been using the "magic" scheme to get him to do things lately.
I cover my eyes with my hands and I tell him that I'm going to count to a hundred.
When I'm done counting, he has to do "magic" to get the space cleaned up by keeping his toys.
It works, so far, for a week lah, I think he's going to find out soon that I'm just messing with him.
It's fun trying to outsmart each other, I get to exercize my brain.


Teach him using examples and scenarios happen in real life.
The words won't get into their head unless you show them.
You don't just tell them, you show them.
He doesn't take care of his toys.
He has scratches all over his toys, paint coming off, wheels are detached.
I know, everyone tells me to let him be a boy because boys play rough. 
Stop right there, small problem like this will be a part of his character when he grows up.
My mum and I tried so hard to educate him to take care of his belongings.

He loves it when I play with him.
Kids love it, kids love attention, plus he's the only son.
The only boy in the family, that explains how spoiled he is.
We started arranging the toy cars and talking to the toy cars. 
My nephew enjoyed it so much and telling me about every toy car about its colour, its brand++
Then, I told Waynn to look at the conditions of the cars.
I started snapping pictures and I said
"Look, they don't look good on pictures because the paint came off.
You didn't take good care of the toy cars. +++"
Never baby talk them, tell them the real thing.
He nodded and started putting them gently in the box.
The DHL truck though... lol...




Talk about not to baby talk them.
So here is my attempt at talking to Waynn like an adult.
He did something bad and I tried to lecture him.
"Waynn, come over here, 三姨(aunt, me) wants to talk to you."
I squated down to be at the same level and looked him in the eyes.
This is what I read from parenting guide, lol.
Speak to them like an adult, eyes meet eyes at the same level so the kids feel respected.
"Waynn, you got a brain right?"
"No."
I feel like he just shot me down, nevermind, bye.
At least, I tried, lol lol lol.
 It isn't easy, it really isn't, haha!


Sometimes we accidentally spoil him and we don't even know that.
I'm the strict aunt, I'm not soft but I'm not the whoop-ass type because he's not my child, haha.
So, everyone got him toys for Christmas.
I insisted that I won't buy toys for Christmas.
I brought him to the mall, I decided to get him colour pencils.
Like fancy 36/48 colour pencils ( I really wanted them when I was little, lol )
We picked out the colour pencils, then he went to the Tomica section.
He stared at the Tomica model cars, HARD, he stared hard.
I said no, he kept staring.
I ended up buying him one. Just one. It's not too bad but yeh.
Be very careful on this, don't accidentally spoil them.
I always try to stop my parents, his grandparents to stop buying him toys.





He really is a sweetheart, he melts my heart all the time but at the same time,
he's a manipulative devil that hurts my feelings so much, lol.
I love it when he knocks on the door and asks if he could come in
because he wants to hug me good night.

There is moment like this.
 He wanted to stay close to me while drinking milk.
So, he carried his blanket to the couch, he put his legs on my lap.
He pretended too fall asleep because he didn't want to brush his teeth, haha.




He said he wants to buy a BMW racing car, particularly a green one.
He will fetch me everywhere.
I uploaded this on Snapchat, I think some of you might have seen it, haha.
Sometimes, I look at him and I hope that when he grows up, he will still love me.
I look at him, I feel like crying sometimes because he's beautiful.
I wonder how will I feel when he goes through his first exam.
How will I feel if he gets detention in school.
How will I feel if he gets into trouble.
How will I feel when he starts driving.
How will I feel when he has a girlfriend.
I look at him and I hope he still loves me after all.
I wonder how will it be, I already have crazy hopes and dreams for him.
Above all that, it's worry. I start worrying for things that are going to come.
I cannot imagine having my own child.
The responsibility is no joke.
It's a child, it's a life, it's a human.

I don't know why I feel like talking about aunthood today.
I think aunties and uncles who are close to their nieces and nephews will understand.
Do share some tips on auntyhood with me.
I'm trying here.
He really is a brat sometimes but I have hopes and dreams for him to grow up well.
I'm proud of him already, I don't know how proud can I get in the future.
 Be good, Waynn.

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Tokyo with Atre ( part two )


I'm back in Malaysia!
I didn't want to leave Japan but I had to come back ):
Still, guess what? I'm going back to Japan next week with my girls.
We're having our annual girl-trip in Japan this year.
This is how much I love Japan now, haha!
Plus I know better now too, I know how and where to get good food, good deals.
Can't wait to be the tour guide (amateur level, lol) for the girls.


Back to the last day of my trip with Atre.

Day four
I reckon that you don't do hotel breakfasts if you ever travel to Japan.
Japanese convenience stores have amazing food choices.
Breakfast, brunch, lunch, tea time, dinner, supper+++
You can find good food anytime, anywhere.
Most importantly, it's economical.
 I got smarter on the last day of my trip.
I knew that Atre would have plenty of food to choose from,
so I planned to have my breakfast outside of the hotel.
Our first stop of the day - Atre Urawa.
 The entrance facing Urawa's train station.



Just chilling while waiting for everyone to gather together.

  
  
Something different I spotted at Atre Urawa is that the first floor is more like a food court.
Food choices are as overwhelming as expected.
Atre Urawa provides a seating area where you can dine in.
There are also cafes, restaurants and bakeries surrounding the food court.



Breakfast was sorted economically and satisfyingly.








  
There were more than 20 types of grilled meat sticks to choose from.


Atre Urawa has The Garden supermarket too.
The same as the one in Atre Meguro.
I wonder how do they arrange things so neatly.

What a simple joy just looking at these fresh greens.
 


They look like high quality fruits.
All packed, ready for gifting.
  

What impressed me most were the counters outside of the mart.
They call it the bagging area.
I shall call it the DIY bagging area.
The cashiers don't pack groceries for you, they settle the bill for you.
You bag your own groceries with your own bags or with the bags provided at the counters.
It was a Sunday, the mall was busy but not as busy as it is on a Saturday.
I can imagine by bagging your own groceries can help avoid long queues
at cashier counters on busy days.
Sometimes, you waste time on queuing and waiting on cashier to bag your groceries.
Now, you save time on checking out, everyone bags their own stuff and
everyone's good to go after that.
That is not only time efficient but it also shows the unity and togetherness
from the cooperation from every Japanese/every person who lives in the community.
  

Witnessing a great culture like that makes me all jolly and all desire to have this in my country.
( Atre should really expand to Malaysia, haha )
So much to learn from the Japanese culture.
How to work systematically, how to work together to improve the community.
Like I said in my previous post that Atre aims to enrich neighbourhoods
by building shopping malls within/conected to train stations.
Most of the Japanese take the train to work, to school, to travel from one place to another.
By having malls direct connected to railway stations makes life easier.
They improve the people's quality of life and
they give the public the convenience going through daily life.
I truly believe and admire their aspiration. 


Again, flowers for you!
Les mille feuilles de LIBERTE florist
  

A little out of topic right there.
Moving on to my favourite part of Atre Urawa.
Tsutaya Bookstore



My followers should know that I love to read.
It was mind blowing for me to be there.
Stunning interior design.
The use of wood gives an elegant touch to the atmosphere and also creates a homie feeling.
Aren't you enticed and tempted to read/stay in this wonderland?
 

  

It's sad to say that I do not read Japanese.
Foreign reading materials are quite limited.
So, I was just checking out on some illustration books in English.

The greenery gives a feeling of relaxation.
It's important to be in the "zen" mood while reading.

  

There's Starbucks in the bookstore where you can grab some drinks,
finish your work, hang out with friends ( but maybe you need to lower your volume here, lol )


Other than Japanese comic, I adore Japanese magazines.
I used to copy the fashion style off Japanese magazine, haha.

One of my favourite corners.



Everyone had to wait for me while I had my self-indulgence moment in this bookstore.

 


Time to leave!
Need to show you the main entrance of Atre Urawa.
Classy~~~


Couldn't get that smile off my face.
What a pleasurable day!


Moving on to the next destination
Atre Ueno
Ueno is one of the top Tokyo districts I wanted to visit so badly.
It is known for some of the finest cultural sites in Tokyo.
A very busy district, pretty similar to KL Central in Malaysia.

  

The shops are divided into east section and west section.
It's interesting that there's something at every corner of the compound.
Surprises at every corner (:

There's the Garden supermarket here too.
Then, there's this mart, nomono, that sells Japanese ingredients and goods.
It is one of the participating stores to join the Atre event at Pavilion on the 14th of July.
Be sure to check it out and get some authentic Japanese ingredients for
your Japanese  meal preparation.

I picked my favourites.
Tamago, Japanese egg, all done and all packaged for you to enjoy!


Dried seaweed dried seaweed.
I love it on my ramen, my rice, everything!


The wide selection of Japanese drinks.


Time for lunch.
We had French cuisine for the day.
Brasserie L'ecrin





The menu is pretty limited as you only need to choose your starter, main and dessert.
Everything is in Japanese, I couldn't understand, haha.
So, I picked pork over fish for my main course.
It's fried battered pork chop with cheese and bacon in between.


I met new people that day.
So, we had our bonding time at the restaurant.
Sharing about experiences and opinions.
We mostly talk about the differences in our ways of living.
I love what I do that I get to interact with different people from different countries.


Shopping time after lunch!
Really really really like browsing through drugstores, cosmetics stores in Japan.
The selections make you want to buy the whole store.
( If only I'm that rich )
You can't buy the whole store so you spend a lot of time in there.
I spent an hour in here, lol, Champ de Herbe.
I always look for the cosme stamps.
Whatever that is cosme number one, I take a second look.

This brand is quite a hot pick this summer.
Mote mascaras and Mote eyeliners.


In a rush? No time to do your brows?
Fret not.
Just put this on and fill in the blanks, hahaha!


Cosme number one.
50 pieces of face mask for only 1900Yen.
I got it to try out.


Urban Research Make Store
A nice boutique with fashionable clothing and items.


Afternoon Tea Living
This store has the cutest things from dining and kitchen, living, stationery to wear.
I'm absolutely looking for an apron, yes I am because it's too hard to resist, lol.


I think my future husband would buy everything here just to keep me in the kitchen, lol.
So, when I got a future husband candidate on my list, I'll bring him to Japan, haha.


 Let the cuteness continue.
Tiny colourful meringues (:
  


Soaps that make you want to shower more, lol.


Laduree has their own merchandises!!!


Just look at the macaron prints!
  

Jill Stuart handkerchiefs.
Super sweet.



Found my dad's favourite place in Atre Ueno.
Hard Rock cafe and Hard Rock Shop
 

Have I ever mentioned that my dad used to dress me in Hard Rock t-shirts a lot?
I was tomboy when I was small.
How my dad dressed me -
NY cap, Hard Rock tee, Nike jacket, Levis short jeans and Timberland sandals/Adidas shoes.
He loves rock music too, we used to go to Hard Rock cafe a lot for the burger and live music.
My dad makes me what I am today ;*)
I sent him this picture when I was there, haha!
  
Ended my evening with the Atre team here.
Went to walk around Harajuku and Shibuya before leaving to the airport.

The whole trip was packed but I enjoyed every bit of it, especially
the absolute sincerity and excellency of Japanese hospitality.
Loved the working experience with Atre team.
Continue striving for what you guys are doing for Japan and then,
share it with other countries.
I reckon the best choice for now is Malaysia! (:

Shout out to the people who want to experience what I experienced in these 4 days.
Do drop by at Pavilion main concourse on 14th of July!
 Hope you enjoyed reading my posts!
 Last but not least, thank you, Atre.